Who’s a perfect soul mate? Don’t we ask ourselves this
question often? But how many of us have a definite answer? I know, I don’t have
an answer but let me just write down this soliloquy. Even if I don’t find an
answer, I’ll know I searched. Whom can I love? A man with a high intelligence,
emotional and spiritual quotient, power, good looks, wealth, good health, good
upbringing, good etiquettes and the list goes on. Is he the right one? A man
like that sounds interesting. But if I look for someone like that, I’m being
selfish. Trying to look into my own interests. No, I need to bask in the glory of my
own power and wealth, not someone else’s. Rest of the things are usually not
noticed when it’s love. Not entirely though.
A few essentials are
required. The first being, a matching wavelength of thoughts. No, not that. The
ability to converse. The thoughts may vary but it’s essential to present them
the way they are, in toto. They should be talked about the moment they come to the mind. Then comes the comfort while talking. Thirdly, a
comfortable silence in the absence of conversations. This brings into the
picture a lot of traits we look for in an ideal person. Trust, honesty,
loyalty, respect and most importantly, an intense fondness. A good conversation
is not possible without these characteristics lurking around. Not for me at
least. Another essential requirement is empathy. I don’t need to explain why, for it’s a very powerful word which heals the world. Love sustains on it. It makes us human. Last but
not the least is, the preservation of individuality or rather identity.
Love and companionship is needed by everyone but is it, in the most exclusive way, the sole purpose of life? I don’t think so. Love needs to seep into everything people do as individuals. The two people involved should understand this
and encourage it.
What did I leave? There is no Prince Charming who rides a
black stallion and sweeps a Maiden off her feet. Those were the medieval times.
There aren’t many damsels in distress these days. We take care of ourselves.
All we need is someone to walk along side with, in the happy and the sad times.
Someone who sees us at our best and our worst, yet knows, 'this is the
perfect person for me'. Someone who believes in mending things and not replacing
them. Not too much to ask for, is it?
Before I forget to say it, trusting the inner voice is vital. It's always correct.
Before I forget to say it, trusting the inner voice is vital. It's always correct.
Conversation forms the undulations which bridge two land masses of flesh and bones together………It is usually an isthmus kneeling in front of a bay, but the secret is that each land mass should know it’s coastline with a definite sense of self-assurance, the strengths and the flaws, the norms and the idiosyncrasies, how one sees life - as a weeping willow or a kookaburra, hopeless romantic or necrotized soul……….
ReplyDeleteThe beauty of conversation is that it passes on, in its crudest essence, the soul of a person in one's comfort zone, without theatrics in one's true native self.......You’re right though, a comforting silence is an important factor too. Maybe that’s why Ted Moseby in How I Met Your Mother(A self-confessed babbler and Neruda fan) is unlucky in his quest to find love :-)
A good write - enjoyed it !
Your words are magical! If only I could write like you... I haven't yet watched, 'How I met your mother' and you seem to be a big fan of the series. I'll have to watch it to understand the last part of your feedback :P
ReplyDeleteThank you. :)